Self-Care Serves Something Bigger

I believe the world needs more love and kindness. Not more information or better media literacy—though those matter. What we actually need is to genuinely care more about other humans. If we did, we’d be better off. 

Which leads me to a point about self-care – I think we’ve gotten it backwards.

We talk about it like it’s the endpoint. But self-care is actually the foundation for something bigger: having the energy to be kind and generous with ourselves and others.

When we’re running on empty, we interact with the world from a place of fear and self-protection. Every request feels like a threat. Every need feels like too much. We close off, guard our boundaries, brace for impact.

But when we’ve taken care of ourselves—even imperfectly—we create space to move differently. We can meet someone’s need without resentment. We can listen without it throwing us off. We can be generous without keeping score.

Self-care creates space for the kind of giving that heals us, the gestures that energize us, the listening that connects us, the kindness that reminds us why we’re here.